Apparently, how you feel about yourself has a direct connection to your health. Those with low self esteem and low self image have more frequent depression. There are more circumstances of heart disease (You do recall that your heart health is affected by stress right?) Your social lives are affected and you are less productive at your jobs. Interesting right?
Our society has been programmed to constantly want more. Desire is never ending. We have a great body, practically perfect hair and amazing wardrobe and then the new season arrives and suddenly, we need all new clothes, different hair and we should drop a few more pounds because the media has shoved yet another idea of perfection down our throats.
So how then, do we flip that switch and start feeling better about ourselves?
- The first thing we do is STOP beating ourselves up. We can’t continue to focus on our flaws and expect to live a more positive way. That is just crazy thinking. We have to agree to TRY to be more positive. Once we agree to begin trying, we will begin feeling like we are deserving of better things. Great. Big. Circle.
- Don’t rely on others for our own gratification. I know. It’s HARD to pat your own back but sometimes, you have to let yourself know that YOU think you are ok. I mentioned in our radio shows about my “buying yourself flowers” theory. It works! Next time you need a pick me up – give it to yourself instead of relying on someone else. BUY YOUR OWN FLOWERS!
- Focus on everything you have accomplished rather than a few things you might have botched up. It turns our focus on to the positive things. If you need help in this area, consider starting a journal. Write down 5 great things about yourself every single night before you drift off to dreamland. It won’t take long for those positives to start rubbing you the right way.
- Eat better. The first thing that we let slide when we start beating ourselves up is our eating habits. So give yourself the ultimate gift of self respect – and eat well. If you feel good on the inside, it’s easier to feel good on the outside.
- Exercise. The last thing most of us want to do when we are in the middle of our own pity parties is to work out. Reality is that when we exercise, our body produces endorphins. Endorphins contribute to our state of bliss and contentment. You all know how much I love Reese Witherspoon. Let’s hold on to some of her “Legally Blonde” brilliance: Exercise produces endorphins. Endorphins make us happy. Happy people don’t kill their husbands…nor do they self defeat or wallow in self pity and poor self esteem. (I added that last part but it just sort of went with Reese’s quote.)
- Surround yourself with positive people. If you are circled by others who have healthy self images, they will be less likely to tolerate you being a party pooper. Gravitate to the people who make YOU feel good by building you up. (We will be discussing more on our relationships next week.)
- SMILE. It’s probably one of my favorite and most spoken pieces of advice. The simple act of turning up the corners of your mouth work wonders in your brain. It is difficult to be moody, grumpy and down on ourselves if we are smiling after all. Make an effort to plaster one on.
If you have found yourself in a funk lately, remember our beloved baby steps. Try one portion of our list until you have it mastered. Once you start, there will be no stopping you. We are certain.
What are your 3 greatest qualities? Can you name them quickly or does it take you a while to find things about yourself that you like?