I admit, as I write this post, I am sitting at my desk, snarfing down a bowl of cheese grits and drinking some good ole sweet tea. I have just returned from teaching my evening yoga class and I find that I am angry. Yes. Just exiting my mat and I am angry. Not very yoga like but guess what? Neither are the cheese grits and neither is the sweet tea. I am human.
As a yoga instructor, I encounter woman every single day who feel that they are less than they should be. They come to my classes searching for answers. Answers to questions lately like “Why don’t I look like HER?”
You recall this woman don’t you? She is Maria Kang. She is a motivator (not a fitness professional) who you not long ago castrated because someone dug around and found this photo that she posted of herself to inspire women and apparently that got a bunch of panties in a wad. So, there has been outrage and TONS of ugliness because some of you felt demeaned by looking at this photo. According to the media and comments that I read while following this story, some of you were feeling less than adequate because this woman has 3 kids and looks the way she does, then she had the balls to post this photo of herself and her 3 small kids and ask you in a very general way “What your excuse” was.
You need to get over yourselves ladies. Really. And before you castrate me for saying so, hear me out.
Who the hell cares what this woman is posting on her Facebook page and web site? I mean absolutely no disrespect to her and her purpose because she and I are on a very similar mission. I am simply asking you, as a viewer of this photo via the news media who has covered this story, who in the hell cares? Did you care before it was featured on the Today show? Did you give two craps about or even know who in the hell Maria Kang was before you saw this plastered all over Facebook by all of your friends? Probably not.
So…why do you care now?
Why is it so important to you now, to point out how unfair this woman was being by posting this photo with her somewhat motivational meaning title? Why do you find it so demeaning to see her prettiness plastered out there?
If you are 100% happy with yourself, I would venture to guess that Maria Kang still means NOTHING to you. You saw the story and let it pass quietly by. Because it didn’t feed on your insecurities or short comings. It didn’t inspire guilt or negativity in your life. You probably looked at this photo and saw a nice looking woman with 3 babies and thought nothing much of it. But…if you happened to be one of the 85% of the women on the planet who isn’t happy with her physical appearance, and you listened to the media suggest that this photo should upset you, you got your panties in a wad.
As a fitness professional, I am asking you to stop. Begging you actually. Please. Just quit being so petty.
Maria Kang works hard for her figure. She invests a lot of time in a great diet and a well rounded work out routine. She looks fabulous and she deserves that body. So does anyone else that works hard to be fit. The amount of time that a woman invests in her physical appearance should have absolutely no effect on your mood and especially not your life. Being angry with someone who has 6 pack abs and great hair is no different than being pissed off at the neighbor who chooses to spend her hard earned cash on a pair of Louis Vuittons. Why do her shoes affect you? They don’t.
Get over yourselves!
Realize that if you aren’t putting in the work, you don’t deserve the washboard abs. You don’t. You also need to realize that some of us just aren’t genetically equipped to look that cut and toned. That doesn’t mean we look like hell, it just means that our bodies are different. But reality still is that for most of us, we just won’t sacrifice hours in the gym each day, sweating our asses off and then spending the rest of our day working in the kitchen to make sure that we are consuming the proper portions of nutrition to maintain >7% body fat. Instead, we will find ourselves sitting at our desks at 9:30pm snarfing down cheese grits and sweet tea.
I am not trying to be cruel. I am simply calling you out on your BS.
And while we are being blunt and honest here, you also need to realize that stupid pills are not going to get you looking like her either. Neither is surgery. Powered chemicals that you mix with water or anything else that your neighbor is selling from their garage in order to put themselves through college. I don’t care what promises people make to you or who they know that dropped 150 pounds in 2 weeks, it’s all bullshit. If you would stop and use your brain, you would know that too.
If you want to look like Maria Kang, you need to eat real food in the right quantities. You need to stop filling your body with junk. You need to MOVE your ass and you need to stop wasting your energy being pissed off at the women in the world who work their asses off to look good. Pettiness doesn’t look good on anyone.
Rather than tossing stones, why don’t you try putting a smile on your face and taking a walk. Snacking on some carrot sticks instead of wasting your time letting the media assist you in getting your panties in wad over a woman you don’t even know.
You are strong and powerful. Its up to you if you use it for good…or for soaking up BS.
The other 15% who are ok with exactly where they are